Touch Me Please

A Sapphic Co-Regulation Event for Autistics, ADHDs & AuDHDs

Authentic Connection in a sensory sensitive space

Created by Rebecca Tolk, a late-diagnosed unmasked autistic

Facilitated by Rebecca and Karla Peña, a late-diagnosed ADHD human

Generously hosted at Gossip Grill

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Description:

Touch Me Please is a guided co-regulation experience centered around consensual, platonic loving touch.

Many sensory-sensitive autistics learn to isolate for survival and regulation — especially in a large city like ours. I’ve learned that so many of us feel isolated and touch-deprived, which means survival can come at a painful cost. Sensory safety often requires distance. Fewer environments. Fewer people. Less input.

Over time, that can leave our bodies aching for the kind of touch that melts tension, sparks warmth, and reminds us we are not alone.

This event is an intentional container to access the regulating and bonding effects of loving touch.

Is it possible to feel connected without sacrificing sensory safety?
Can we experience human connection without overwhelm?

Let’s explore this together.

~Rebecca

Consent: By purchasing a ticket, you are consenting to giving and receiving loving touch (meaning with kind intention towards the one we are touching), such as pressure hugs, hand holding, standing back-to-back, arms gently touching, standing face-to-face while breathing together, and similar co-regulation exercises.

This is an opportunity to experience touch inside a safe container with 20 other sensory-sensitive humans. We will be standing and slowly moving between each co-regulation moment, organically switching partners. You may or may not interact with everyone. This is not partnered speed dating (just to set expectations). You will be standing for most of the event, and you are always welcome to take seated breaks whenever you need.

Who is this for? Single sapphic Autistics, ADHDs, AuDHDs who want to meet other single sapphics craving real heart-fluttering connection. All of us have been isolated and misunderstood for too long. Let’s come together with curiosity and compassion. Monogamy, Poly and ENM welcome. Age 21+ (Led by a 52 and 26 year old)

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Sensory-Friendly Space + Setting Expectations:

• We will be in a well lit space
• No overhead music, the club will be closed
• Scent-free (please avoid scented skin/hair products, perfumes & essential oils)
• Bring noise-canceling headphones, earbuds, and/or stim toys
• Leave and take breaks whenever you need to
• The handicap bathroom is unscented, the main ones have air fresher scents
• We will be standing most of the time. There will be bar chairs around the room for you to take sitting breaks if needed.

 

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Schedule:  7-8:30pm

Arrive 6:45pm to check in, fill out your name tag and have your picture taken with your name tag.

If you have time blindness put 5pm on your calendar and join us for a joint dinner with the attendees of the event before dinner. You can purchase separate tickets at www.gossipgrill.com/getiton. For the dinner, attendees of both events are invited. It is another opportunity to meet new people.

• 5-6:45- Joint dinner with the event attendees from the afternoon event
• 6:45-7- Check in, fill out your name tag and have your picture taken with your name tag.
• 7-DOORS CLOSE (no one is allowed in after 9:30am) Plan travel accordingly. Bar closes, no service during event.
• 7-7:20 –Opening circle. We go around and say our names and how we feel or why we are here. The facilitator will prompt you.
• 7:20-7:30 –Directions for the event
• 7:30-8:25 –Guided co-regulation exercises facilitated by Karla, organically switching partners. Examples are listed above in the description section. Take breaks as you need. We will be standing, walking, touching, smiling and having fun.
• 8:25-8:30 -Quiet time to fill out feedback form
• 8:30 –Event ends and bar opens for 30 mins of drinks and mingling
• 9pm GG closes, we need to leave the building to give space for the staff to close up

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AT THIS EVENT- BAGS, LOVE NOTES AND NAME TAGS WILL BE ON THE BAR (INSTEAD OF WITH INDIVIDUALS LIKE THE DATING EVENTS) SO THAT YOU CAN READ AND LEARN ABOUT WHO YOU LIKED SHARING TOUCH WITH AND GIVE THEM A LOVE NOTE TO CONNECT AGAIN AFTER THE EVENT.

 

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Sensory Seeker Menu:

Rebecca and Chef Julie have designed a fun menu especially for sensory seekers of food. You will be sent the menu on a google form the day before the event to fill out before you arrive. Orders will not be taken at dinner. You must pre order, and you will pay your server at the event. Some of the ingredients are special order so we want to make sure we have enough.

 

 

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Love Notes:

These will be exchanged after the event. We provide bags to put them in for each person. Your bag will sit on a chair around the dance floor so that people can leave you a love note anytime during the event or after.

There are three options on them to check off:

1. You’re cute, let’s go on a date!
2. Can we be friends first?
3. I’m not feeling a connection.

Plus a place for your name and number if you want to connect.

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Name Tags + Pictures:

You will receive a PDF file for you to print and fill out at home so you have time to think about your answers. There will also be some at the event to fill out if you do not have a printer.

Name tags are sized for half a piece of 8.5×11 inch paper horizontally. You can clip it to your shirt, punch holes in the paper and hang it around your neck, or use tape or safety pin to attach it to your clothing. 

Colorful paperclips will be provided at the event to attach to your shirt or dress top. String, tape, hole punch will not be provided.

Besides your name, there will check boxes for questions like these or similar to help us learn more about each other:

• What kind of relationship you are interested in
• If you like quiet or noisy spaces or both
• Your sexuality preferences
• If you mask
  
• Your special interests
• If you are looking for body-doubling/parallel play partners
• Communication style

Upon arrival pictures will be taken. We may also have a GG media person taking short video clips for promotional materials. please let us know at check in if you do not want to be photographed for promotional purposes.

If you do not want pictures taken with your name tag to share with all attendees, you may miss out on some connections. The pictures allow you to remember who gave you a love note, to help you decide if you want to connect

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You must purchase an online ticket to attend (no door sales)

Please do not attend if you feel sick or display symptoms of illness.

 

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PARKING: There are metered spots on the street and neighborhood parking behind the building and surrounding areas.

*Limited food and drinks menu will be Buy One, Get A Token for the Next on all beers, seltzers, well drinks (excludes CBD seltzers)